Messages are a great start, but nothing replaces seeing someone smile and hearing them laugh. Video speed dating evenings give you a series of short, live video dates — from your own home.
How it works
- Sign up for an evening from Speed dating in your account. Evenings are included with our paid plans (Silver, Gold and Platinum) — see pricing. Places are limited, so sign up early.
- Join on time and test your camera first.
- Have a series of five-minute video dates, one after another.
- Say yes or no privately after each date.
- If you both say yes, it's a match — and you can keep talking in messages.
How to prepare
- Find a quiet spot with good light in front of you, not behind.
- Check your internet connection, and charge your device.
- Dress as you would for a casual first date.
- Have a glass of water nearby — five minutes of talking goes fast!
What to talk about in five minutes
- "What made you smile this week?"
- "What does a perfect Saturday look like for you?"
- "What's something you're looking forward to this year?"
- "What are you hoping to find on SeekMyHeart?"
Keep it light and curious. You don't need to cover everything — you only need to know whether you'd like a second conversation.
Safety
Video dates happen inside SeekMyHeart. Contact details stay hidden, and the usual contact-sharing rule applies after you match. If anyone behaves inappropriately, report them straight after the date.
Why it works
A few minutes on video tells you things a profile can't: warmth, humour, how someone listens. Many people find it a less stressful first step than meeting in person — and a great way to see past the compatibility score.
Speed dating is part of the wider SeekMyHeart community. Explore groups and the Book Club too, or see upcoming events.
Common questions
Do I need to download anything?
No. Video dates run in your browser on your phone or computer. Test your camera and microphone before the evening starts.
Will my dates see my contact details?
No. Everything happens inside SeekMyHeart, and contact details stay hidden.
What if I say yes and they say no?
Nothing happens, and they won’t know your answer. Only mutual yeses become matches.
What if my connection drops?
Rejoin as quickly as you can. If a date is cut short, it’s fine to say so when you reconnect.
How often are there speed dating evenings?
New evenings are added regularly. Check Speed dating in your account, or see our events page.