Some of the best relationships start with a shared interest rather than a swipe. The SeekMyHeart community gives you places to talk, learn and be yourself — and to notice people you might never have found in Discover.

Groups

Groups are communities for faith, careers, fitness, travel, parents and more. Inside, you can post, reply, share ideas and take part in polls.

  • Groups are mixed. You can talk to anyone, while dating suggestions stay opposite-gender.
  • Free members can join a couple of groups; Premium members can join more, start polls and propose new groups. See pricing.
  • The usual contact-sharing rule applies in groups too, and posts can be reported.

The Book Club

Each month, the Book Club reads one book together:

  • One part a week, so it fits a busy life.
  • Spoiler-free discussions for each part.
  • A live book chat at the end of the month.
  • A vote on the next book.

Love the same books as someone? You'll see "You both loved…" on their profile — a perfect first-message topic.

Why community helps your dating life

  • Less pressure. Talking about a book or a workout is easier than a first-date interview.
  • You see how people think. Someone's comments in a group show you their kindness and humour.
  • Shared interests count. They're part of your compatibility score.

Etiquette

  • Be kind and stay on topic.
  • Don't use groups to message people privately in bulk — keep dating approaches for Discover.
  • Follow our community guidelines.

More ways to meet

Try live video speed dating, check upcoming events, or take a free love quiz and share your result.

Common questions

How do I join a group?

Open Groups in your account, pick one that interests you and join. Some groups ask the organisers to approve new members.

Can I start my own group?

Premium members can propose new groups. Our team reviews proposals to keep the community welcoming.

Do I have to finish the book to join the Book Club chat?

No. Discussions are split by part and kept spoiler-free, so you can join in wherever you are.

Can people message me privately from a group?

Dating conversations start with mutual matches. Group posts and replies follow our community guidelines, and anything inappropriate can be reported.

How is the next book chosen?

Members vote on the next book at the end of each month.