Meeting someone for the first time should feel exciting, not nerve-wracking. The date safety check-in is a simple feature that gives you — and the people who care about you — peace of mind.
How it works
- Before the date, open Date safety check-in in your account and add the plan: who you're meeting, where, and roughly when it ends.
- Choose a trusted friend or relative to receive it.
- After the date, tap to check in and let them know you're safe.
- If you don't check in by the time you set, your friend is alerted with the details you shared, so they can reach you.
What to include in your plan
- The person's first name and a link to their profile.
- The venue's name and area.
- The time you're meeting and when you expect to leave.
- How you're getting there and home.
Choosing a good place
Pick somewhere busy and public that you know — a restaurant, café, mall or event during the day or early evening. For ideas, members can browse Date spots: restaurants, lounges, art spaces and outdoor spots in Lagos, Abuja and beyond, some with member offers.
More first-date habits worth keeping
- Arrange your own transport both ways, so you can leave whenever you want.
- Keep your phone charged.
- Don't leave your drink unattended.
- Trust your instincts — it's fine to end a date early.
Our safe first date checklist covers everything step by step.
Before you even get to the date
The safest dates start with good conversations. Keep chatting on SeekMyHeart until you feel comfortable — the contact-sharing rule gives you time — and consider a video call first. Look for a verification badge too.
After the date
If it went well, tell them! If something felt wrong, you can report the person from their profile — even after you've met. Our team reads every report.
Read more on our safety page. Happy dating — and stay safe.
Common questions
Does my friend need a SeekMyHeart account?
No. Your trusted contact simply receives the details you choose to share if you don’t check in.
What if I forget to check in?
Your friend is alerted with the details you shared, so they can call you. Just let them know you’re fine.
Does the other person know I used the check-in?
No. It’s private between you and your trusted contact.
Can I use it for second and third dates?
Yes — use it as often as you like, especially when meeting somewhere new.