Commitment is a decision, not just a feeling. These questions help you check you’re ready — alone first, then together.
- Do I want this person, or do I want to stop being single?
- Do we agree on faith and how we’ll live it?
- Have we talked about children — whether, when and how many?
- How will we handle money: joint, separate or both?
- How involved will our families be?
- How do we handle disagreements, and do we repair afterwards?
- Do I trust them when they’re not around?
- Do I like who I am around them?
- Have I seen how they behave when stressed, tired or disappointed?
- Are there things I’m hoping will change after we commit?
That last one matters most: commit to who someone is now, not who you hope they’ll become.
Take the free marriage readiness quiz, and read about premarital counselling.